Marcelle Manhattan - not only angry, but fair, too - and fascinating
Oct 29 at 12:12am by wilkins
Ms. M. Manhattan of Sexegesis has written a post about an ex - someone who, while they were together, made a point of tormenting her about her mediocre skills as a lover. In particular, as a fellatrix.
In truth, there’s no way I can plausibly claim not to be a member of the same group as this lout. Manhattan plausibly suggests that he’s a sociopath. Let’s look at the evidence:
- gratuitous humiliation, in which he apparently took pleasure;
- based upon a falsehood (”you don’t give good head”). It’s a falsehood because he wasn’t in a position to know anything except whether or not it was good for him. (For argument’s sake - and because we can’t refute it - we’ll assume that, when he was complaining, he was, in fact, not delighted). The only cock I’ve ever had sucked is my own; but I’ve sucked a couple of dozen, with and without assistance from others, and it’s a skill I’ve tried to get down (no pun intended).
[I like Dan Savage a lot - but apparently he's been saying there aren't any bisexuals. The editorial staff here at Sunnydale Recycling have secret evidence that bisexuals actually exist; it's true that we're all really, really bad people, but that's another matter entirely]
My current assessment is this: there’s a lot of variation between men and cocks and how they like to be blown; giving “good” head can involve lots of things - but always some feedback - usually just via observation - from the recipient.
Women vary much, much more - in my view - much more complexity and heterogeneity in female sexual response. Sounds like Marcelle’s ex didn’t figure that out either.
And - check her out - look how incredibly sexy and smart this woman is. If he’d been nice to her - it would have been apparent sooner.
But some of these guys don’t get off on getting off. They get off on being cruel.
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Oct 27 at 10:10pm by wilkins
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Mr. and Mrs. Tom and C. Paine
Oct 23 at 11:11pm by wilkins
Polyamorously Perverse is a blog we’ve recently discovered. Here are links to some excellent pieces; what’s more, the comments are quite thoughtful, and in some cases, make the posts complete.
How to set up an MFM threesome;
Sexual Diplomacy and the Battle of the Sexes
The proprietors/authors of this blog are “Tom” and “C” - and they’ve got some really thoughtful things to say about marriage, monogamy, love, sex, and other compelling issues.
They also got a great review from JanesGuide, always a sign of excellence.
Tips for doing certain things where one ought not
Oct 23 at 11:11pm by wilkins
Sexoteric Blog has reprinted Timeout’s tips for having sex in public:
1. Dress strategically. Long skirts for park sex. Commando for cars, dressing rooms and bathrooms. For the ladies, side ties on your bikini bottom for water sex. Sweatpants or loose jeans for guys—this is about the only time the K-Fed look will work for you.
2. Choose your location wisely. Meaning no one should be around—and definitely no kids. Leave parks for after-dark hours when the only “straight” family members are dads cruising on the DL.
3. Play it safe. Tote along condoms and lube pillow packs (silicone-based for lake or pool sex)—they’re about $1 each at adult bookstores.
4. Be tidy. Bring a Ziploc bag to dispose of the condom wrapper, used condom (ewww…) and used pillow pack. It prevents littering, plus your trash won’t tip off the police to your favorite sex spot.
5. Make excuses. If caught—by the police, dressing-room attendant, bouncer, your parents—say that the zipper on your pants got stuck and you needed help.
6. Make yourself comfortable. Though outdoor sex seems romantic in the Wilco/Billy Bragg collaboration “Remember the Mountain Bed,” pine needles and poison ivy on your privates are gross—bring a hoodie so that you can lay your bare butt on it.
7. Learn from gay men. Many straight folks think sex means intercourse, which, in public, is rarely realistic or (for women) orgasmic. Gay men are more creative; much of their public sex involves hands and mouths.
8. Keep it down. If you need a pillow to muffle your cries of joy, you’re not ready for public sex.
9/ Act casual. Avoid thrusting and grinding while “casually sitting” on your partner’s lap. Talk, laugh, smile (but not too goofy). It’s like running with a superfit friend and trying not to hyperventilate. Except instead of hiding that you’re out of shape, you’re hiding the fact that your privates are connected.
10. Cover your tracks. Bring a comb or hairbrush to tame your sex hair. Tuck your shirt back in. Wear patterned clothes to camouflage any stains. And seriously, have some class: Pack a travel-size toothbrush and toothpaste set and brush your teeth before kissing your grandmother if your mouth has been below hip level.
We’ll add two:
1. Know the rules and laws in the city/country in question. Not only the rules on paper - it’s usually illegal - but is there a current policy in force - (e.g. certain airports in Minnesota.
2. If you’re not sure, it helps to have the name of a local attorney handy.
Of course, it always helps to have the name of a local attorney handy, but especially when you’re being naughty.
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